It’s Not Going to Be Perfect in Online Dating
As the definition says, “perfect” things have all the desirable elements and are the best possible. But we can dream endless possibilities and have all the desirable elements, ALL, it’s crazy because we can always wish for more.
The reason why I am suggesting that perfection is unattainable is because “perfect” is simply a human construct created by language. We talk about perfection, but that is only a distant fantasy to which we compare our current reality.
In the song Whoops by Blues Traveler, John Popper sings: “We can imagine the straight line, but our fingers can not control the pen”. You see, human language – which is obviously incredibly beneficial to our species – helps us to describe and evaluate the world around us and then categorize things as “bad” and “good”. So we use our language to solve problems on how to get more “good” and less “bad” things in our lives. And this is useful …
And then we can go even further to evaluate things like “good”, “better” or “better” and participate in the behavior to get the “best” (or more reinforcing) to help more effectively our survival or well-being .
The problem with the language we use is that sometimes we can build things out of reach. We can move from “good” to “better”, to “better” and therefore make our language “perfect”.
As the definition says, “perfect” things have all the desirable elements and are the best possible. . With so many human desires and endless possibilities, doing things perfectly is impossible in reality. But because of the way we categorize our world, and the way we would like to indicate “better” than “good” and “better” than “better”, it’s no wonder that we’re betting on “perfect” above all others thing.
It is here that the commitment to engage in precious actions exceeds the goal of perfection. A commitment requires action, while perfection is only a goal. Think about what happens when you aim for a target in archery. Use your time and effort to stand up, focusing on what you want to hit, dragging the rope to the anchor point and directing the tip of the arrow to that target.